Dreams where things come true are nowhere else apart from your where your family resides. You are always bound to the people you love and will always be so whenever you are close to them. Solace, peace, mental stability and the feeling of belongingness only comes across in your comfort zone.

So how do you find this zone when you are away from your loved one’s? Self-comfort is another part of your life but you would still feel the need of affinity of people around you as that is the whole idea of a mankind. Friendship is that thing which keeps you together and makes you the person, socially competent. With the required attention and the pinch of dedication can truly land you in the belief system of friendship.

How do I know if its good for me or not? Well u don't!

We as humans tend to quantify people and their behavior towards us as per our whims and fancies. We do not see through them to know if we are doing good with them or if we are being fair to the system of bonding. Judging a book by its cover has always been that we fancy practicing. The more we learn, the more illiterate we get in understanding people.

Finding the right people in this age is like the diamond in the deepest part of the mine. To generate the required power for extraction, we surely have to make a lot of effort in understanding them from the bottom of our heart. As it is only when we would be able get the required answers to our questions.

Meaning “Is this really worth the effort?”

Yes of course it is, I have had my share of friends right from my kinder garden days, Some ate my lunch, some helped me with my homework, some gave me a hard time and some helped me relax that. With all this, I could only perceive their body language but not what they are truly made off. Myknown factors about them were their good or bad will but what made them so wasn’t in my friendship guide.

As I entered college, getting to know the person and their real intentions behind what they do was the secret to my friendship. U grow, you mature and so does your belief system. It is rightly stated, your childhood friendship is the most valuable one, I know the true meaning of it as I really only have two of them since childhood and know they are there for me. However, everyone has their path and u just have to live along with it. Trying and finding the same depth with people whom you meet at any point in time. I know its not required and everything is far fetched now but being platonic yourself can truly harness the way you see people.

College and professional days are an eye opener for me. A true testing time for me, I think I have faired enough when I saw through people. Maybe that is the secret of friendship. Maybe that is what we require to change in ourselves.

Unless you really see through them, u wont know what they are worth. Sometimes it takes a few days to realize while sometimes it takes a million and you’r still not able to figure out.

My oldest and the latest one have defined ‘Friendship’ for me. With the oldest one being the pillar of my strength the latest one has been my foresight to discover the unknown. Thanks Doreen for helping me figure out the unknown side of friendship.

Things take time people, let them. This is where the fruit ripens and tastes sweeter but u only have to remember not discarding it just because it raw.

Scenarios to a better friendship:

1. Don’t assume things: Always sort it out by talking face to face. If it can be sorted do it if not part ways but don’t assume.
2. Make a sweet gesture once in a while: Meet them out of surprise, do things they like atleast once in 2 weeks.
3. Truly be there for them: Even 5 mins of spare time for someone wont make u a different person, instead you will see that change in you and a growth between yourself.