Your heart really beats fast when someone says “We need to talk”
You are left in shakes, blood flowing fast, your hair plucking up with anxiety and nothing seems right at that very moment. All your senses are lost and the feeling of “Oh god, now what?” is all left amongst your thoughts.
You have lost your sight of seeing what is next and all you can think of is the words that are going to come out next.
We all have felt this more than once or atleast once for sure and have known to be in this position in our relationships. Our mind sops thinking and it only processes the conception of how do we get out of this and out through the tunnel of light. Its hard, the trail that your mind is working on at that moment, you only want to come out of it; be it good or bad, the feeling is what should go away.
With the pillars of questions that surround you, you pray that ‘all’ you want to posses is a gem, a lucky stone, a lucky note on which you could somehow get this circumvented to its positivity and feel blessed with the outcome of what you are planning to do with the rest of the conversation.
It is different when we are of different age to deal with the way our heart grows (not scientifically but emotionally), we see things differently, we prospect them differently and even pursue them differently.
Fighting them would be whole new different story, maybe another article can cover it 😀
At the age of 13, our reaction to things would be “You don’t care about me, you are horrible and I hate you”
At the age of 18, anything that hurts us, leads to “Why is god so unfair, what wrong have I done to deserve this”
At the age of 25, It goes to “Aahh! who cares, it wasn’t meant to be”
We literally develop ourselves in every phase of our lives, we not only grow physically but even grow with our heart. Learning so many things becomes a part of it, becoming experts or atleast close to handling situations becomes our motto.
Its hard to deal with what our heart speaks to us based on the situations, every hour that passes we have a whole new list of thoughts that comes around and we are right back where it all started.
For me, I always try and make things right inside my head first, other things just come along for me. What we think is what we work towards. Its all in your head remember that. Only thinking on what is wrong leads to “Oh god! so many problems” It is only when we think of “Got the solution” leads to “Ya! life is simple, lets try and make it even more easier”
Do not give up on a heart-break, its a part of your growth. I hear and read extremely sad news that mentions “Wife divorces husband as he did not update his facebook status to MARRIED” how is is that we went from having romantic stories to being one of those people who have endless heartbreak stories? I guess the problem lies in the way we are dealing with it.
Anything that is not meant to be is going to leave you and you just have to deal with it. Many people get married early in their life for many reasons but if none of them is for love-then or eventually, it wont last. It is truly what steps we take defines how our heart is made and evolved; how our nature turns out to be.
We always criticise people who have different approaches towards you when it comes to taking care of emotions. The biggest problem is people are not wrong, the situations are tough: if you separate them, they are just regular people.
For now, let us try and deal with it one by one. Search for positive things in what breaks our heart; maybe that will help you change the way we think about heartbreaks. Jumping to conclusion is a very human tendency and breaking that is the only way we can break the chain of “Human HeartBreak Sufferings”.
Life Scenarios:
- Do not become conclusive on people’s reaction that affects your heart, try and understand the reason behind it. Most of the times I am sure it will be senseless but hopefully you find reasons at major times.
- Insisting for explainations that you know the answers to will only lead to chaos so just do what you might do after hearing the answers.
